10 Tools for Silencing Negative Self-Talk and Boosting Self-Confidence

Silencing the voice within that keeps telling us how terrible we are is a difficult battle to win. Self-doubt is always ready to pounce and knock us down, but these 10 tips, tricks, and tools can help you work with it and find the strength within yourself to go out there anyway…

Name Your Critic

One of the first things you should do when taking back control from your inner critic is giving it a name. By naming your negative internal criticism, you are able to separate it from your regular thoughts which means that when these self doubts are swirling through you, you can differentiate your own healthy thinking from that of the inner critic. Call it Charlie, call it Nancy, call it the dictator – whatever works.

Keep Talking

Now that your inner critic has a name, it’ll be easier to get it talking. While the end goal is quieting this voice altogether sometimes we need to let a part of us feel heard first before that can happen. There’s a piece of our inner critics which has our backs and is trying to keep us safe, next time yours says ‘you can’t do this’ ask why until you get to an answer so ridiculous that even they might stop shouting at you.

Be A Friend Instead

Try stepping outside yourself in those moments where getting out from under feels impossible, and speak to yourself as if speaking to a friend. We’re often much kinder towards others than ourselves, remembering this helps but also practicing some of that kindness compassion true belief onto ourselves too.

Write It Down

If your inner critic won’t shut up about something take what they’re saying put them statements on paper then disprove them. If for example their statement was “your self-starter business will fail” or “you’re a bad friend”, grab a piece of paper draw two columns, one listing all the things that support this statement being true about yourself whilst another lists everything showing why it isn’t true.

By laying out both sides of the argument for you to see in black and white, it allows you to take a more balanced view on these things rather than getting swept up in them emotionally.

Replace with Accurate Statements

The next time your internal criticism accuses you of being terrible at something, aim to replace those exaggerated accounts with more accurate ones. So maybe it’s not all bad decisions 100% of the time but rather sometimes wrong choices too.

Being able to substitute precise statements for dramatized versions is an incredible reminder that we are human after all, something which deserves understanding as well as opportunities for both wrong and right turns throughout life.

Balance and Action Goals

Now that you’ve got accurate statements, work on balancing them with actionable goals. There shouldn’t be a plan to do better with each inner critic statement because it gives power to this little voice. But you can notice where there’s room for an actionable goal.

It’s a good thing to recognize some flaws and know where you can work on things. For instance, if it tells you that you are terrible at public speaking accept the fact that you’re struggling with it and aim at finding ways to make yourself more comfortable while addressing crowds. This is already an actionable goal.

Don’t Suppress

This takes us back to letting your inner critic speak its mind out. Sometimes we may find ourselves trapped in spiritual bypassing where we feel bad or wrong about having negative thought cycles. In case you try closing down your inner critic, all it does is amplify that voice and then we are anxious about being anxious. Do not suppress bad feelings, allow yourself to experience all emotions.

Seek Reassurance

If there are people in your life who have voices of love and trustworthiness, don’t be shy about asking for their reassurances once in awhile when needed most! Let them know what X, Y (and) Z is being said by this pesky little thing called ‘my inner critic’. Let them tell us how far off from reality our thoughts may have strayed…it really helps!

A Simple Mantra

When your inner critic goes rogue and you’re feeling low on energy or kindness for yourself, another easy way to bridge that gap is by using a simple mantra every now-and-then… One such phrase might be “so what?” The next time your voice says, ‘you can’t do this ‘or’ everyone hates you’, responding with a so what could pack quite the emotional punch.

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